Recently, I've been having trouble with my dad.
Well, not really with my dad. But there's been trouble with the situation. Mostly, it's the fact that I despise his girlfriend and her daughter. So, I don't go to my dad's as often as I should. Legally, he could make me see him every other week. And he fought in court for that, he fought long and hard, as did my mom for her custody.
But I hate being at Dad's house. The feeling over there is miserable. My dad's gf (from now on referred to as C) makes everyone edgy, and it makes my dad drink. Which, I know he would drink anyways, but he is a funny ridiculous drunk when he's not around her. When he's around her he turns into an asshole.
And even when he's not drinking, there's the problem that he works all the time. So I wouldn't see him for more than a couple hours a day, if that. And the rest of the time I'd be stuck with C, and miserable.
Now, what I think is... I would rather spend one day, be it Saturday or Sunday or any other random day when he has free time, and hang out, instead of spending a week at a house that I hate and do nothing with him. If we had money we could go bowling or out to eat or something, and if he didn't we could just hang out and do whatever. It wouldn't matter to me, all that would matter is the quality time. And I honestly believe that we could both be happier that way. Because I know I'm not happy being there for a week at a time, and he's not happy with me being gone for over a month like I have this time.
Usually I'm not gone this long. And the only time I am is when there is unwanted drama. Back in October I think it was about a month that I didn't go over there. And since then it's been pretty steady, but now I just can't stand it. I don't want to be around C. At all.
I just haven't had a chance to talk to Dad about doing something once or twice a week. But on Friday he's taking me to a Breaking Dawn release party, and we'll have an hour and a half of a drive to maybe talk about it. As long as the friend I'm going with doesn't chat our ears off, which she is known to do.
lotsa love,
Chelsie
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I know this happened to my kids only their Dad would only see them here and there. It got to the point they never liked going over to his house. So they just stopped. He never called either to see how they where. So they have pretty much lost all ties with him. I think it is sad. If they could of talked to him maybe it would of been different. But then again he would have to listen to them and understand, and maybe help them in the situation.
It is to late for them but hopefully you will be able to talk to your Dad and come to some kind of understanding.
And in your situation, I think it should probably have been the dad's job to keep the connection going, whether it was phone calls or emails or something. I'm not sure what happened or what the circumstances were, so I'm not going to pretend to be an expert, but oftentimes kids (and when I say that, I mean myself as well) don't really understand the value of a good bond between them and their parents.
I didn't realize how important my relationships with my mom and dad would be a couple years ago... now I have a better idea, but I'm sure I'll say the same thing about myself in another couple of years.
If any of this makes sense. It's almost three in the morning, so I may be rambling =P